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Conscious, intentional, and mindful. Three words with similar meanings. Three words, any one of which could save your relationship!
Conscious: Most of the time we walk around in our world quite unconscious about what we are doing or why we are doing it. Think about it — when was the last time you consciously thought about why your partner might be doing or feeling a certain way? Maybe it is the holiday season and as a child the holidays were very painful. Consciously remembering that childhood has a profound effect on your adult relationship absolutely helps to explain what is happening between you today.
Intentional: Have you intentionally done something loving and nurturing for your partner lately? Leaving a surprise love note when you go off to work one morning would certainly feel good for both of you. Intentionally ending the next phone call with "I love you", would be great to do as well.
That brings us to Mindful or Mindfulness; A lovely word that to me, feels healing when I hear it. I think of slowing down and concentrating when I think of Mindfulness. The dictionary says, "taking thought." I think it is more than that. Being mindful in my relationship comes from my heart AND from being thoughtful. It is about slowing down in a busy world and thinking with tenderness and open heartedness what my partner might be needing from me. Try mindfully connecting with your partner each day for a few minutes. Bliss will follow!
"Thought directs the eyes and eyes direct the soul". A quote from Notes on Love and Courage by Hugh Prather. The best description of Mindfulness I can imagine.
— Nancy Ross
