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Nancy Christie: Living on Automatic: Helpful and Not Helpful *NEW
Nancy Christie: Mindfulness Practice: Why the Buzz? *NEW
Nancy Christie: Taking Care of Stress on a Day to Day Basis *NEW
Lisa Walter: Working with Gifted Adults *NEW
Nancy Ross: A Gentle Reminder to be Mindful
Nancy Ross: Oh, My! Those Blooming Relationships
Nancy Ross: Three Wise Words
A Gentle Reminder To Be Mindful
Being mindful in your relationship often feels like a challenge. But the rewards are many, beautiful and often times quite surprising. Like seeing a falling star for the first time in a long while.
You will be in for a delightful surprise if you do absolutely nothing new other than once a day, for 30 seconds or less, take thoughtful time out of your already too busy life and tell your partner what you appreciate about them, or what you appreciate about something they said or did that day. The ripple in the pond effect will smooth your furrowed brow.
The positive energy that will pass between the two of you will heal many old, as well as some new, wounds. Just a few days ago my partner said she noticed I had been doing something or other that I felt good about but didn't think she had a clue. My little heart just ate it right up. All felt well. I felt seen. That one small thoughtful gift has lasted between us for days.
Although it doesn't need to take long, it does need to be mindful and thoughtful. Give your partner a heads up that you have something important to say. And clearly say, "I appreciate..... Thank you." Even if you don't get appreciations back for awhile, it will still make a significant difference. It is that energy thing again. The energy between you will soften, be more peaceful, have positive regard in it. And I promise you, if you are truly mindful and clear about what you are doing, you WILL reap the benefits.
